All parents have a bad conscience about something. It is likely that in the evening after kids are tucked in, we get a cup of coffee and then the question "Am I a good mom/dad shows up?"
Most of the times we know the answer. We know that there are a lot of things we do well and some we can do better. In my case it is being able to sit down, be present and play. Even when I was a kid I thought playing was a bit boring. Nope, I built stuff, made plans (big plans) and it was always very frustrating when I had friends over and we made a grocery shop of a little table and all kind of weeds and roots on it that got washed to look like parsley and potatoes and then suddenly they started to play now I am the customer ( with a silly grownup fancy lady voice ) and you will sell me some potatoes... WHY ??... we were just having so much fun by BUILDING the shop - no play was necessary !!
Then you get a kid and you just want to be the best parent in the world, and trouble starts... But then there is Bilofix. Seth, my son is still too small for the little pieces, so I spend one good hour alone building the crane ( tightening all the screws very well ). When he got home, we played together pulling it around and moving all kind of things. I was thinking: How can we make it better and built more on it ? Seth was probably just excited about how it moved around on the little wheels... We had fun and I know that when we play the best it is when I play like I did when I was a kid. He loves it and I know we are going to have so much fun in the future making a lot of stuff, painting and building.
It really makes me happy when he grabs some pieces of wood lying around and makes it into a train... I really understood it and maybe we can find a big piece of wood that could be the engine and because I still want to be the best mom I say silly things like: "I am the engine driver and I have so much to do today, and a schedule Ho Ho"...
Suddenly he stops the game and uses a planter as hat and looks like a little but very surprised Chinese rice grower
All the fun we will have... I just love him so much...
I found the two boxes of bilofix at a thrift shop. All the bits and pieces are stacked away for when he gets older.
3 comments:
i couldn't agree with you more! I was the kid who would spend hours setting up the shop or playhouse or tent village or whatever, and really didn't enjoy 'playing' in it. The building was the fun.
We got a set of those building 'bilofix' (but it was called something else....) things from Germany for my son when he was tiny--I ended up making most of the vehicles until he was about 5 and could really design them himself. It is a wonderful toy for kids and adults!
this would definitely be the best present for my husband!!
oh i know what you mean. my little boy is about the same age as your little one. i spend quite a bit of time designing and putting to gether wooden train sets for him. they are so sweet arent they?
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